love

[hulkster85]

How can people treat others badly? I just don't get it. Treat each other as you wanna be treated, especially guys with girlfriends, A LOT of guys take their gf for granted. If you care for someone, show it, no matter what anyone thinks. Love may be a fragile thing, but it can also be the greatest feeling in the world, so with that said, if you are lucky enough to find someone you love and care about and the feeling is the same from that person, do whatever you can to show that person how much you care.

[red6883]

hey hulkster, i totally agree with you about treating others with respect and treating them the way u want to be treated..... {love} and also showing the person how u really feel {lovesick} and do not take them for granted {smash} tell the people how u feel that u are aiming this tword

[hulkster85]

thanks red, I know, but sometimes it can be hard to tell someone how you feel about them, as you probably know its not always easy to bear your heart to someone once you've been hurt. There is one person I love and she knows it ;-D I don't know if I can tell her enough how I feel. And her having a bf doesn't make things easier

[Debby]

Love is a many splintered thing....oops I mean many splendered thing. LOL

Seriously though....Love is HARD!!! I mean falling in love is easy, but loving is hard. What I mean by that is...It is hard to keep a relationship going, and to love them as much as you love yourself, and to not take them for granted. Marriage is especially hard. Living with someone and being together so much is very diificult.Does that make any sense?

I think I may be a bit bitter about love these days, though...because I always feel like I give so much more of it than I get...and my husband and I have fights and problems sometimes....but really love is a beautiful thing, it just takes lots of nurturing. I know we love each other, it is just hard to deal with all the day to day problems I guess.

I think if you really love someone, no matter how many times you have told them, or how impossible it seems....you should never give up. You should definately let them know.

[Swimmers]

It's too hard to tell someone you love them though. Sometimes you can risk a relationship etc! It's hard to explain but i know that it can be hard.....REALLY HARD!!!

AS for guy's and gal's taking their significant other for granted...that really makes me ANGRY!!! It's another human being who loves you....treat them good!! geesh!

[keithster]

Sometimes, it's not so much that you take someone for granted as it is that you regress emotionally.

I can't tell you how many times in marriage I've found myself acting like an 8 year old. There's nothing like an intimate relationship to bring out all your insecurities in spades. My buttons get pushed and I react when I should respond.

It's not that I don't love and care about my wife. It is that I have to learn new ways to do things because I didn't learn them growing up.

And I'd better learn them darned quickly because I do want my son to know more about being a Godly man than I did starting out, and I want my daughters to recognize a Godly man when they start dating.

Love ain't like they show it in the movies. It's work and more work. There's little magically about it. It's learning to love someone no matter what and to stay with it through thick and thin. Commitment. What a novel concept. :)

[red6883]

i do understand how hard it is to tell someone you love them i truely understand that....but dont got as far as telling someone your inlove with them untill you are absolutely sure.... i know many people that have gotten the line .. i love you but im not in love with you i for one have used that line..... i cant and i wont tell anyone im inlove with them untill i am absolutely sure thats who i want to be with for the rest of my life.... i love alot of people but i cant tell any of them that im in love with them

[hulkster85]

Thanks to everyone who's replying to this post. Its given me a lot to think about. Especially, Debby, you make a great point, it is hard to keep a relationship going, especially if your trying long-distance, which I have found out personally. Seeing your signifigant other every couple weeks, if your lucky, is hard, you try to make the best of every second you can spend together.

[Karenluvs6]

It is hard but it sure is worth it.
My husband (Beezwax) is my best friend. We had to work harder on our relationship than on anything either of us have ever done in our lives. But I can honestly say that the hard work pays off in so many ways....you can't even begin to imagine.
For instance, we haven't had an argument in probably about 4 or 5 yrs. That is NO JOKE! We have our disagreements, but we never raise our voices or be mean to each other...Never!
Communication is the key to every relationship!
If you don't have that....you have nothing.
If you love her....keep working on it.

[Debby]

Oh Karen, that is awesome that it has been so long since you and Beeswax have had an arguement! Wow! I wish my marriage was like that! I can honestly say we haven't had an arguement for 5 days! Woohooo! How's that? But...we keep trying, cause we do love each other. We are both just stubborn and pig-headed I guess.

And Red, you brought up such a good point, there IS a big difference between loving someone and being "in love"
I love my friends, dearly...but I am not "in love" with them...sometimes I think the problem in alot of relationships is that you still love them, but you lose that "in love" feeling...and it is hard to bring it back...it takes some trying, and you have to rememebr they are still the same person you fell in love with in the beginning. I'm not talking about that giddy, "oh my gosh I'm in love feeling" that you have at first...that ALWAYS passes....I mean the feeling of being in love to where they still make you feel....you know, in love!!! (it is hard to explain) But just looking at them gives you this tender, mushy feeling sometimes, and you know you could never live without them....that is how it feels when you are still in love with them. (at least it is in my case)