why cant people be happy for each other?

[LoveFanatic]

My family criticizes(?) me because I'm dating a girl younger than I am. Has society implanted the idea that a person must date within 1-5 yrs of his/her age group to be happy? If someone I know tells me that he/she is dating someone younger or older than them, the first question I always ask is "does this person make you happy, and does he/she treat you right?". Wouldn't this world be so much better if we all stop trying to judge each other according to our own beliefs and just accept each other for who we are? Thank you.

[RoadRunner]

It's no fun when your family criticizes you. That's a bummer.

[Zephyrus]

I don't see any problem with dating someone younger/older as long as this person makes you happy. I used to date a girl who was three years younger than me (something that many did not encourage), but her parents were similar (her father was 10 years older than her mother). It doesn't really matter what other people think, as long as you are happy then just ignore them.

If you want my opinion why people judge each other and can't be happy for each other, then one answer might be evolution?! We all compete against each other to survive and continue our own lineage, so if you're happy (and doing good), someone who is not might not like the fact, and resent you for it (because of evolutionary competitiveness)!

I'm not saying it's THE answer, but just one possibility!!

Cheers! {toothy}

[kezzer]

As long as you are happy that is what counts. I think some people criticize others because they aren't happy with themselves and their own lives. I believe age is irrelevant for love. I hope that your family will realize that you are happy and be happy for you.

[Debby]

As long as she is over the legal age of consent then I don't think it is anybody's business but your own (including your family) :)

[blinc]

I'm going with what Debby said. ;)

[DarkInHere]

Originally posted by Zephyrus
I don't see any problem with dating someone younger/older as long as this person makes you happy.
And that's basically all there is too it. I was dating someone 4 years older than me (with a 10 year old daughter in tow as well) For a while we were happy together, and that's all that matters :)
Some people are more mature than their physical age and can relate to older people (I was always like that as a teenager) and I think that trait carries on into the dating game. Nothing wrong with it.

[ladyserenity]

Ditto to Debby and blinc. People are afraid of what is different. People criticize to make themselves feel better. However, it's important to remember the criticism is about them....NOT you. :)

[Debby]

Good answer LS ( I am so glad you are here!....can you tell?) {toothy}

[ladyserenity]

{blush} awwww shucks {blush}

thanks cyber sis. :)