Gossipy, backbiting, lying, sneaky, no good ...

[Military Mom]

I shouldn't even bother being upset about this, but ooooOOOOHHH!!!! {fire}

I do home health care for three pediatric patients in this small town type area. I just found out for sure (that is, I SUSPECTED for quite some time now) that one of my client's mom's has been telling the other nurses who take care of her son AND another client's mom lies about me. About things I have supposedly said or supposedly done. She takes things I have said to her and twists them around to fit the meaning she wants them to fit. She completely exaggerates things that have happened to the point where she is outright lying. Worst of all, she has told tall tales to and about the Nursing Agency I work for.

She has also lied to me from the beginning about sooo many things. I can hear it in her voice when she does. {pukeface} Now, among other problems, I have fellow nurse running around here completely ticked off at me because of this woman. You know, that is a blaring sign of someone who does not have enough of a life of their own and has nothing better to do, and she proves it over and over again everytime she opens up her mouth and sets the old rumor mill running again.

Normally, I would just look at her and say, what a peice of human waste. But I keep thinking of how she grabbed onto my hands the other day, thanked me and told me how much she liked me, how good of a friend she thought I was, how I was the only person she could really talk to. Now, I wasn't looking for a friend in her, but I did think "gee, what a nice thing to say, guess she's not so bad after all!" HAH!

25 years old and still don't realize when to trust my first instincts.... That's ok, I should thank her for the lesson learned.

[kezzer]

I kinda know what you mean, mm. When I was working in the bakeshop, my supervisor would have lunch with me and we'd always talk, etc, then I'd overhear her talking about me to other people and then after telling me how I was the only one there she'd have lunch with etc, she requests for me to be transfered to another store! That was about the last straw for me and I stepped down, back to the front. I'm sure it's not that easy for you to transfer or whatever, it's not like you can move to another department. Could you maybe go to another client and stop going to her? Nobody needs that kind of stress in their work environment, least of all when you're dealing with children. I hope you can find a way to work this out.

[ladyserenity]

I've had a similar experience at work. What I eventually discovered was that most of the people at work really knew what type of person she was. Not that it did me any good, she told some horrible lies about one of my co-workers and me. I went immediately to one of the people she said something about in reference to me, and told this other person how upset I was since I had just found out about these lies. It sort of cut the story off before it got any further.
The sad thing is, she still works there, and is still causing problems for others. I have to really feel sorry for her though, because she must have a lot of emptiness in her heart to behave that way.
Hang in there MM...this too shall pass. Good luck.

[Mickyhoo]

Is this the same idiot mom that was more upset about DE's death than her own ill child!?!?!

If it is.. then the other nurses should know she has a few screws loose!!!

If not.. talk to your supervisor and tell her that you will not be talked about in ways that you cannot defend your professional reputation. They should back you up on this.

you are only 25?? For some reason I thought you had a KID of your own in the military... now I am sooooooo confused by your screen name.... {dizzy}

[Military Mom]

Mick - girl, you are ON it! lol Yep, she's one and the same. I sure do know how to pick the winners to deal with, hah!

I have had the feeling many times that the best thing to do was just sit and nod and listen to her goofy far-fetched tales, nod, smile, and keep my big mouth shut. And every time I have listened to my own advice on this one, I have never been sorry. I get really frustrated with myself because I make the mistake of thinking about this toothless woman outside of where I have to cope with her.

Now, granted, I feel very sorry for her and her family that her little boy is so sick. And I thoroughly enjoy caring for her son. In fact the whole purpose of me or anyone else being there is so she and her husband can get some rest at night. But she stays up and jabbers till 5 am on average. A couple times I even caught her SLEEPING in the kitchen. I was like - GO TO BED ALREADY!!! At first I thought maybe she was staying up because I was new there and was making sure everything would be OK. But the other tow nurses who have been there longer than I both say that she does the same when they are there. This is the extent of her social life. I hate to sound so mean, but she has no friends. Her social life is digital cable and talking to people who are paid to be there. I'll try to keep this in mind when I am there for then next THREE nights.

Kez, out here there are only so many cases who need nights covered that are within driving distance. There IS one more, but let me just say this about that one; this child was taken off of her mom by the state at one point. So I'm not even going to try it there. COme summertime, I will be able to drive further because snow won't be a factor (we get LOTS!) and I can hardly wait! lol

Ok, so now that I have spouted off, I feel better. It's not all bad there. I've been worse places - not many, but I coped there too. I just keep reminding myself that once my Husband is done with school about this time next year I can be a SAHM - YAY! MY house will be clean, dinner on the table and I will have all the time in the world with my son and time to try for the next baby. ONE YEAR! lol I can stand on my head in the desert for one year. And then I can work one day a week if I want to keep up my skills. Ahhhh... :)

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