How Important is Weight?

[TWTCommish]

Alright Girls: how important is a man's weight to them? I'm not fat or anything, but I could stand to lose 5-10 lbs...just have a tiny little stomach. :)

165-170 lbs, 5-10 or so...so I'm not too bad. Be DEAD honest with me on how important it is.

[TTP]

Are girls even supposed to be in here?
I don't think most mind too much...some tell me they prefer a little belly.
I'm personally a tubby 6 ft 220 just ask Utah.

[TWTCommish]

No idea if this is the right forum - seems mildly out of place in both. I'm asking a question about guys, but I want the answer from women. :)

[In_His_Shadow]

I personally don't like the muscle men. I do however like all areas firm. As we are aging I am finding his little budda belly quite a cute snuggly thing.

My husband is 6'1" weighing 180
I'm 5'2" weighing 104

But somehow we manage to fit together well.

CJ

[blinc]

My hubby's about 6'2" and 230 or 240? Most of it's muscle... but he does have a bit of a belly that I love to tease him about. It honestly doesn't bother me in the least for a guy to be somewhat overweight!

In fact, I'd MUCH rather see a guy a little overweight then underweight. I know it's probably not as healthy, but really, underweight people just make me worry that if they ever got sick it'd probably kill 'em. Weird, I know.

[Karenluvs6]

I'd rather see big than bony...I love my hubby's belly!
It gives him character...and he doesn't look right skinny.
I would sooner look in the direction of a man who is heavy....don't know why..it is just a preference of mine I guess.
he is 5'11".....about 250 lbs

[41mama]

My dh might not be an Adonis, but he's smart and he listens to me. What do you want in a young woman? If you want someone who's very concerned about her appearance, she may care about your appearance to the detail about whether you're 5 pounds overweight or not too. She might also be superficial and shallow to care about your appearance so much that she doesn't look past that to see the person you are. I think a man who listens to me is much more attractive than a man who weighs exactly what some chart someone who never met either of us says he should weigh. Christie

[jamesglewisf]

41mama, You hit the nail on the head.

I think God can bless somebody and make him or her naturally good looking. But you can also have people who spend 2-3 hours a day grooming themselves. Someone who spends that much time on personal appearance probably doesn't spend to much time on developing character and depth. That's why we call them shallow.

Here's the sad thing about it: 30 or 40 years later, we're all going to be sagging, graying, wrinkling, and fading. I know a 60 year-old woman psychologist who has undergone plastic surgery so many times that her face looks fake. She has had multiple face lifts, eyebrows tattooed on, and fake red lipstick tatooed on. She really looks hideous.

My wife and I were at the hockey game this past weekend, and a couple in their 60's walked by. He either had his hair died jet black or was wearing a bad wig, and her hair was died reddish brown. They both looked rather clownish. It was truly sad--60 years old and still haven't figured out what is important. They were probably the type of people who cared more about appearance than character when they were your age.

I'm not saying that we should ignore appearance and become slovenly and gluttonous. We should all take care of our bodies. But that care should be prioritized properly.

[In_His_Shadow]

I agree, it is quite scary to look at some of the people in Hollywood nowadays. They have their skin so stretched they don't even look human anymore.

CJ

And the sad thing is it seems that girls are doing so much surgery to themselves at such a young age with their parents permission.

CJ

[TWTCommish]

Glad to hear these things - I'm by no means fat, but I'd probably 5-10 lbs overweight, only noticable if I have my shirt off, thankfully.

Obviously it's better to be in shape, but I'd be lying if I said there wasn't at least a bit of vanity in my quest for the ideal weight. I think that's one sin we're all guilty of.

[Military Mom]

I would be lying if I said that weight does not play a role in how attracted I feel to a man.

A few extra pounds is no big deal - it's all in how you carry it. My sweetie has put on some pounds since we first met, but I still find him incredibly sexy ... {love} He is 6'3" and goes about 250. Brawny, not scrawny, baby!

But if I had my druthers, I would want him to shed about 20-25 lbs - simply for the sake of his health. He needs to change his diet as well - I'm doing what I can to help. I try to cut down on the fat in the dinners I make and I try to make dishes with leafy greens and yellow-orange veggies as much as possible. I want him around as long as I can possibly have him!

I think men can get away with more apperance wise than women. Extra weight, a so-so complexion, evidence of age and hair loss are all things that are no big deal on a guy but on a WOMAN - uh oh. I think men tend to be more critical about certain physical aspects of a woman.

Yet, isn't it ironic or weird that a man can look at another man and have absolutely NO idea whether a female would consider him to be attracive or otherwise. Whereas women can size anyone of any sex up in a matter of minutes! Mars and Venus, I tell you!

Mommy

[necrominator]

Originally posted by TWTCommish
No idea if this is the right forum - seems mildly out of place in both. I'm asking a question about guys, but I want the answer from women. :)


All areas huh. sound good.

[jamesglewisf]

I'll have to disagree with you on the women being able to size up women. If you look at the women who grace the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue (not that I do), you will notice that they look a lot different than the women in women's fashion magazines. Men tend to like women who really look like women--for instance--long hair. Of course you can have a pretty woman with short hair, but most of the supermodels that men like have long hair.

Most of the women I know are always talking about someone who is so pretty--NOT! I tend to agree with the men they think are good looking though.

[jamesglewisf]

About TWTCommish's post - This thread started out in the "He-Man Woman Haters Club." I moved it here so the ladies would see it.

[TWTCommish]

Good point - women see short hair, and I find they quite often comment nicely on it...I, for one, don't mind it, but I tend to lean towards longer hair. I just want a lady, she should look like a lady, and act like a lady. James nailed it.

[Debby]

Well, I think men are more critical of a womans weight than women are of a mans. I personally like my man who have a little bulging tummy....it's kinda sexy....but I'm sure no man thinks a little round tummy on a woman is sexy! I think I'm in pretty good shape, but I could lose 10 or 15 lbs if I wanted a perfect figure, but I think personality should be more important. And my husband says he thinks my body is sexy just the way it is, so I am content with that!!

[utah007]

Debby touches on the point I'm about to make. Ladies tend to be very sensitive about their weight, so they are less likely to complain too much about men... I'm glad they don't have double standards! What matters more with either sex in my opinion is how well you present yourself. Confidence and intelligence are VERY sexy.

[TWTCommish]

Glad to hear it - I'm confident to the point of arrogance. :D I've believed for quite a long time that attitude and how you handle yourself are probably the most important aspect of what a potential spouse thinks of you. Yes, there are tons of pretty girls who are, as a result, a bit shallow, and if you don't catch their eye right away, you're dead - but so be it. No interest in them anyway.