Why are people so against divorce?

[augustangel]

Why are people so against divorce? I know some couples who got divorces and it was the best thing for them. Some remain the best of friends (that they werent before) and some don't talk. What if two people werent meant to be together but didnt realize it until later? And also, people change. Sometimes the person you married might not the same person in 5 years. Or 10. You never k now. I'm not totally against divorce, but it really would be dumn if people just did it for the heck of it lol. But yeah, just a thought.

[jamesglewisf]

I'm against divorce because I believe your marriage commitment is for life, except in cases of your spouse committing adultery.

[jamesglewisf]

I'm a little confused, augustangel. You seem to contradict yourself. You ask, "Why are people so against divorce?" and then you state, "I'm not totally against divorce."

Are you fer it or agin it?

[augustangel]

i meant alot of people get all excited over it, and i was just wondering why. i dont think its a bad thing, people drift apart...

[theyeti]

Interesting topic, AA. There is a reason we have the ability to divorce in this country, but a lot of people abuse that power. However, you are correct - the person you marry might not be the same in 5 or 10 years.

I think that you should take enough tiem before getting married so as to reduce the possibility of a divorce later. But just like a lot of people throw divorce around, many fail to consider it as a viable option. My grandparents recently got divorced - they'd been married for almost 50 years. Looking back, I can't really see any reason why they stayed together so long - they made each other's lives miserable. Now grandpa is alone and barely able to take care of himself with not much money... if they had broken apart earlier, he would've had time to try and rebuild his life.

[Alec]

It's like I said in the other thread. I'm not for divorce, but I don't care that much about what happens outside the church. It's my responsibility to share what I think, but people can do whatever they want.

[clarebear]

It is all about the kids.

I think people are against divorce because it is against the fundemental values of society. Two people are suppose to meet, fall in love, buy a white picket fenced house, have kids and grow old together. Children are 'supposed' to have a mom and a dad who are together. Marriage is suppose to be forever and many times this just isn't the case.

Children are the ones who get hurt in divorce. A child who once had both parents at home ends up with just one. Many times the lifestyle changes because there is now only one income. Most of the time a child only sees the other parent a few times a month. This causes children to feel like a yoyo and they don't want to pick sides because they love both of their parents. Many times children feel it is their fault. (If only they had been better then their parents wouldn't have gotten divorced)

I personally think it is better for a child to come from a divorced household than a loveless abusive one. Children shouldn't see the fighting and arguing. (they grow up thinking this is how a relationship is supposed to be)

I think when children are not involved that society really doesn't have an opinion on divorce. It is the kids that people feel sorry for. I do however think children of divorce can grow up to be happy and have successful relationships of their own. They aren't doomed to the same fate as their parents. The divorce cycle can be broken just as other cycles can.

[KalenElendil]

I do agree with you. My parents got divorced. Before they did however, my dad was in the army and my mother was living practically broke in a small two room house. If they had stayed together i would be miserable.

[Dude111]

I'm against divorce because I believe your marriage commitment is for life...I couldnt agree more Jim!!

If you love someone enough to TIE THE KNOT,why put them thru the pain and sadness of a divorce??

[Dude111]

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