What happen with the OW

[D' Jacqulin Williams]

I was at first skeptical about this meeting, and then I knew it had to happen, because I needed answers. I got the answers I needed and along with it a surprise that what I told this OW hurt her. She seem a bit arrogrant at first, and then she came down to earth to be put to shame. I found out that this OW really don't like herself and that what she did was to make her feel better at a time she felt like NOTHING, and it didn't bother her who it wouldn't have been with, not by my choice it was my H, but his and he seems to feel so sorry for it. There are things that I can't understand, but, I don't think none of us will, but, I want to get this behind me, cause God has too much to give me for me to let be without so much, and what's for me it is for me. If at all I need to air out some thoughts once-in-a-while, i hope someone will be listening.

Trying to work on me

[RoadRunner]

I'm glad your meeting went well, or as well as it could.

It sounds like she was pretty arrogant at first, and then dropped her defenses and was honest with you. That's pretty normal when someone is confronted with the fact that they did something very wrong.

Did she show any remorse? Did she apologize?

[D' Jacqulin Williams]

Roadrunner

No she didn't apologize. After me telling her, she knew it was wrong that she had hurt our family. She said, that she now regret and that regret means sorry. I told her that she's not sorry because she did something that she knew was wrong and it was something that she didn't have to do. Then she ask me, did I want her to apologize. And I told her that there's nothing I want from her but, answers to all my questions and that she was then free to leave me and my husband alone and that next time I want be as nice as I am now with her or him. He promise me never to do this again, that he has really learn a serious lesson and he hates what he's done. I want to trust what he says but, I'm so cautious about it. It will take time. No, she was not at all remorseful, at all. But, she wanted me to think that it just happen. She open the door and let him in they talked and the next thing you know, they're having sex. I ask her what in world were you two talking about, she says, I can't remember it's been a year ago. I told her I though she sounded more like a "P" to me than a Friend.

[kezzer]

It does take time. But I'm glad you got it out in the air. Now I pray for you two to start in the healing process of getting your marriage back together. It will take some time, and there will always be bumpy roads ahead, but stay strong and don't give up. It was 4 years ago for me and my hubby and now I think we're gonna make it for the long haul. But I remember a time when I didn't think we'd ever make it! Good Luck to you. {hugs}