Confused in love

[lost in love]

Hi, I need some help!! I have been married for only two years. We have had a pretty good marriage so far. But here recently i have went through some kind of change. I am only 22, and for some reason all of a sudden don't want to be married. I mean there are some issues behind the reasoning. Like that my husband is still a boy. I would say. He wants everything to be want he wants. And i guess i have had my fill. We only do what he wants to do. Like the house we bought is what he wanted, the car that i am driving is what he wanted(i am paying for). He is a big hunter, so he wants a hunting boat. He had one but sold it so he could get a bigger one. Which upset me. I am just sick of doing every thing for him.
There is alot more to the story but the main part is that i am finally wanting to step up and be my own person. What should i do?????

[jamesglewisf]

I think you should start praying for his maturity to grow, telling him that you would like to be a part of the decision making, and being patient. Just because you did some growing up recently doesn't mean it will happen to him at the same time.

You are both still very young, and you need to be patient. By the time you reach 30, your views on a lot of things will be different than they are today; and the same will be true at 40, 50, 60, 70, etc.

Hopefully, you've got another 40-60 years of marriage together. Don't expect him to change all at once.

The worst thing you can do is to start nagging him to change because, frankly, you cannot make him change. The best thing that you can do is work on yourself. Work on being the best wife and person you can be, and hopefully that will motivate him to grow and change also.

I wouldn't rush into children. That won't help any.