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carla6646
07-03-2009, 02:03 PM
I need some advice, the girls next door is always flirting with my man, and of course my man eats it up, she is all smiles at him when she sees him, and totally ignores me, I told my man that he needed to ignore her so she stops and quit feeding into it, I said that the flirting needed to stop cause i am feeling disrespected, he said fine I will do that! he said he is doing nothing wrong, the other day I looked out the window when he was out there and he was waving with his head at her but when he is with me he just stares over at her, before kissing me good bye he looks over to her door. I work out my home and he works outside so the room had not been created for him to talk to her, however, I am nervurs. a week or so ago i was outside with my man late at night having a few beers and she came outside, don't know what happened but we started arguing about her, she heard the conversation, she went inside, we continued, later I heard a door slam comming from next door, I realized that aparently she has been opening the door listening to our conversations late at night, since we tend to chill outside not to wakeup the kids. Well the next day me and my man argue some more over it inside our home, I feel embarrassed that she listen to us argue over her and made her important in our conversation, not sure if I added fuel to the fire? or if this will backfire on me, Whenever we have male friends over she goes out of her way, comes out shaking her backside and smiling and flirting with the guys. totally not a word to me. So now it has become where he only waves to her when I am not around, to add to the tension, I also lied to my man and told him that I talked to her about it and she said if someone flirt with her she will flirt back, kind of to put theball in his park, all these in the efforts to stop the flirting bwteen the two, I told him if this flirting doesn't stop than, when I see a man over there I am going to start flirting also,I am afriad all this will back fire on me, What should I do please help?

jamesglewisf
07-03-2009, 11:56 PM
Well, you certainly shouldn't lie to him. And you certainly shouldn't start flirting yourself. You keep saying, "my man." If he isn't your husband, I would dump him and find someone who respects you more. If he is your husband, then you need to ask him to put you first and quit the flirting.

If he won't stop, then you'll just have to live with it. You can't force someone to behave appropriately.

Make sure you are meeting his needs. Do you flirt with him? Do you make him feel special the way she does? Focus on being the best wife you can to him, and eventually he will probably come around.

carla6646
07-05-2009, 12:37 AM
he is not my husband and I work on making him feel special but u right can't teach someone to be appropriate, however, relationships is a two way street, i can't be all giving without recieving, i may start admiring myself, but I guess, for him it maybe something new or fantasy, what wll happen, will happen, thanks for the advice, need new opions thank you!

Dude111
07-05-2009, 09:13 PM
Welcome to the site :)

I would confront your man and see how he feels about this behaviour and go from there!

You may have nothing to worry about!