need help!

[Babidol]

My hubby and I have been fighting a lot. He says it is because of my brother staying with us. But when my brother goes away, to give us time alone. WE do nothing but fight. OR he completely ignores me. I am being to feel so alone. I can't talk to him about anything, without it ending up in a fight.

He has been sick, but I sometimes wonder if it is not in his head. He can do things when he wants them done...even fun things, but he can't make time for me. He almost seems bored.

I don't know what to do? Can anyone help me?

Please email me if u can.

Email Address is: CHSbabidol@hotmail.com

Thank u

[jamesglewisf]

Babidol, I am real sorry you are going through this. I don't think it is appropriate for me to email you. I'm sure one of our ladies will be contacting you. I'll be praying for you and your husband, however.

[blinc]

Hi Babidol. I'm sorry to hear you're having marriage problems... they sure can be emotionally painful. Can I ask how long you've been married? How long has your brother been staying with you? Sometimes a clue can be found in what the fighting usually starts over... is there something that usually sets it off? Maybe we can help if we know a little more?

We'll be thinking of you and hoping for better times.

[In_His_Shadow]

Babidol,

Welcome to the site, and I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. It is hard when you have someone living with you. My sister-in-law lived with us for about 2 months about 18 years ago when she left her husband. It does put a tremendous strain on everybody. It would be wonderful if we humans were more understanding and accepting, but, unfortunately thats hard to do sometimes.

I will pray that your situations has a has changed by the time you read this. If not please let me know if you still need someone to e-mail you. I will help in anyway I can just let me know.

CJ

[Anat]

Hi Babidol,

You say that you fight even when your brother goes away. Of course, it could be that this is the perfect time for you to vent out all the accumulated pressure over his staying with you in the first place.

We often have family members staying here - sometimes for several nights each week (because we live in a big city). In a 2-bedroom apartment (one of the bedrooms is an office now), it can get overcrowded and add stress. Still, we never fight about it, because we both feel that helping relatives is important. This makes me wonder if your brother's stay is the real cause of trouble. I'm sure it doesn't help your marriage but maybe there are other underlying tensions as well?

If you can, please post some more details. How long have you been married and when did things start taking this turn. Any other details maybe helpful too. Also, it can be nice for you to "talk" things over with people in the forum, if only to let it all out. Maybe explaining things to us would help you to clear some points for yourself.

I wish you better times in your relationship,

Anat

[lisa t.]

Hey!
Sorry to hear youre having marriage problems. I wish I could give some kind of awesome advice that would make everything perfect but the truth is I dont have any like that. Can't honestly say I know exactly where your coming from but I do know the empty awful feeling you have that comes with marital problems! I havent been married long but I've already been there! The best thing I know to do is for you to ask God to help your marriage. It works for me!
You both will be in my constant prayers.
lisa t.

[momofmany38]

SOrry to hear about the fighting.....but let me give you a hint.....the best advice that can be given to you......and what I have done and been told by many when ANYTHING is in question or you are in need of ANYTHING.......turn it over to the LORD.......HE will answer prayers.....I KNOW THIS.....let us know how things are going......k? we will all be praying for you...{angel}

[Debby]

I think the last advice is the best...turn it over to the lord, though that doesn't always solve it...but it will make it easier. (does that make sense?) I have problems too...but when I pray and ask for guidance and help....it always feels better.